Powerful lessons from the Chinese bamboo story

Powerful lessons from the Chinese bamboo story

Few days ago, while chatting with my elder brother, he brought up this story. Even though, the Chinese bamboo tree story was to encourage someone else but since then I’ve not stopped thinking about it. There are just so many powerful lessons from the Chinese bamboo tree story that I think everyone should know about it. It cuts across every area of life! Be it education, relationships, business, if you meditate on it and apply to every area of your life, growth will be inevitable.

What’s special about the Chinese bamboo?

This plant takes 5 years to start growing!

John Dabrowski

The Chinese bamboo tree doesn’t break through the ground for the first four years. See, like other plants once you plant it, you need to water it, nurture it, and fertilize it every day. But unlike other plants nothing happens the first year. You do the same thing the next year, and still nothing happens. That’s right, for 4 good long years, you see no results! Can you try to picture that right now? There’s no proof of progress. If I’m the farmer, I may start to doubt that I actually planted something.

But there’s good news, because in the 5th year things begin to happen. They don’t just happen, they happen real fast. In just 5 weeks, the Chinese bamboo tree can grow till about 27 meters! It’s almost as if you can actually see the tree growing before your very eyes.

Lessons
  • To succeed, you need a lot of faith, believe and patience. Faith in yourself and your abilities. All bamboo tree planters know and believe that the tree will grow in 5 years. They just do what they have to do while waiting for the right time for the tree to grow. Do not allow your mood or circumstances around you derail you from your goal. People will criticize and doubt you. To be honest, you can’t blame them (obviously they haven’t heard the Chinese bamboo story yet). Don’t give in to the nay saying.
  • Keep watering and nurturing the seed. For the Chinese bamboo tree to grow in 5 years, it needs to be watered and nurtured. For 4 years there’s no sign of growth but however, the planter keeps watering and nurturing. Don’t stop working on yourself even though it feels like it’s not working. Learn a skill, improve your character, work on that project etc just do what you have to do. In due time, you will be rewarded. It takes small actions everyday to get a major goal.
  • Build a solid foundation in order to survive in the harshest conditions for many, many years. Truth is, like other trees without the solid foundation, it might grow in the beginning. However, in the long run, it might not be able to support the size and long life.

Related: Keep on Keeping On

Examples of bamboo tree planters in real life
  1. Albert Einstein

As a child he didn’t start speaking until he was four, reading until he was seven, and was thought to be mentally handicapped. Yet, he grew up to be one of the first people whose name pops up when you think of physics

2. Vincent Van Gogh

An artist whom throughout his lifetime,  sold just one painting, ‘The Red Vineyard’. But nowadays one of his paintings can cause $100 million. Literally, his work finally paid off, it’s rather unfortunate he didn’t enjoy it himself.

3. Richard Hooker

Richard Hooker had to water his bamboo tree for seven years and through 21 rejections by publishers until his humorous war novel, M*A*S*H became a runaway bestseller, spawning a movie and one of the longest-running television series of all-time. ( source: JD mind coach)

15 Quotes that build self confidence

15 Quotes that build self confidence

A quote let’s you look through the eyes of another person and allows you to see what they might have learned in a lifetime, almost instantly. Personally, I find them easy going, so relatable and they always set me in the right mood. Below, are 15 quotes that build self confidence.

Sheri L. Dew

Noble and great. Courageous and determined. Faithful and fearless. That is who you are and who you have always been. And understanding it can change your life because this knowledge carries a confidence that cannot be duplicated any other way.

Theodore Roosevelt

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.

Marie Curie

Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.

Allen Cohen

To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. 

Oprah

Think like a queen. A queen if not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness. 

Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Zig Ziglar

You are the only person on earth who can use your ability. 

Mark Victor Hansen

Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful. 

Dalai Lama

With the realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world. 

Jo Blackwell-Preston

Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

Wendy Wasserstein

Don’t live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable. 

David Storey

Self confidence is the memory of success

Eleanor Roosevelt

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Louisa May Alcott

“I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship.” 

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15 Empowering Bible verses for women

15 Empowering Bible verses for women

We all have those moments in our lifes when we feel like the odds are against us. With the so much negativity around us, our minds start playing tricks on us. We begin to doubt our competence, beauty, and worth! In such moments, hope becomes a very strange word. However, there are always Bible verses that are strategic and specific for what ever situation you may be going through. Below are 15 Empowering Bible verses for women. Hope it encourages and motivates you especially when you need it the most.

1) Proverbs 31:25 ( NLT)

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”

2) Psalms 46:5 ( NIV )

“God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.”


‭‭3) Luke 1:45 ( NIV)

“Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!””


‭‭4) Proverbs 31:17 ( NLT )

“She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.”


‭‭5) Psalms 28:7 ( NIV)

“The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him.”

6) Proverbs 11:16 ( MSG)

“A woman of gentle grace gets respect, but men of rough violence grab for loot”

7) Joshua 1:9

“ Be strong and courageous”

8) Proverbs 31:30 ( NIV )

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”


‭‭9) 1 Corinthians 15:10

“ But by the grace of God, I am what I am…”

10) Proverbs 31:26 (NLT)

“When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness”

11) Psalms 139:14 (AMP)

“I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.”


‭‭12) Exodus 14:14 (NLT)

“The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.””


‭‭13) Songs of songs 4:7 (GNB)

“How beautiful you are, my love; how perfect you are!”

14) Colossians 2:10 ( AMP)

“ And in Him you have been made complete …”

15) 1 Peter 3:3-4 (NLT)

“Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes.

“You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.”
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Bible verses from www.youversion.com

What is your bible verse for the year? Comment below

AMAZING SONGS THAT CELEBRATE MELANIN (2)

AMAZING SONGS THAT CELEBRATE MELANIN (2)

Nowadays, black women are beginning to own their melanin showing that their skin really is beautiful too. With a lot of modifications that are being made to suit the dark skin such as makeup products and body lotions, the music industry isn’t left behind. Thanks to a few artist, these are amazing songs that celebrate melanin to add to your play list. I hope these amazing songs inspire, motivate and activate you to celebrate melanin more. May these songs remind you just how beautiful melanin is and also, may it reveal the beauty lying within you.

1) Black Is beautiful by Flavour

I can see her from afar,
She just dey shine like a morning light,
I can see very clear
She just dey shine in a broad day light (hey),
And she was walking
And i was watching
Every step and the move she was making.
She is adoring i am admiring her hips

Beauty is a natural thing,
Original thing and a mysterious thing hey,
Rise up ma voice and sing i thank the lord for a beauty queen.
Cos your black is beautiful
Beauty from my own,
Baby your black is beautiful (baby moo)
Beauty in disguise
And your black is beautiful (ahhhhh)
Black is beautiful hey,
And your black is natural, (ahhhhhahh) black is original
Oo oo ohoo
Oo oo ohoo
Oo oo ohoo
yoo yoo yoyo, mama moo

Cha cha chei,
She is black she is proud and she knows it,
She is cool and i everybody likes it,
She is bold and she very very humble,
She is strong and can never never fumble,
She is courageous (ahh) azagitarious the kind of woman I can take for serious,

Beauty is a natural thing,
Original thing and a mysterious thing hey,
Rise up my voice and sing i thank the lord for a beauty queen,
Cos your black is beautiful (beauty for my own)
Baby your black is beautiful baby moo,
Beauty in disguise hey,
and your

And your black is Africa,
Your black is Jamaica,
And your black is Arabia,
Your black is Jamaica,
And your black is Nigeria,
Your black is beautiful oooo
dudu tu tuuu duduuuu,
huu huu
selooom
your black is beautiful.

2) Black woman by Danielle Brooks

You look at me like I’m unfamiliar
Like I’m brand new
Like you never knew that you liked them thick
I’ve been carrying this weight
In a world beneath these braids
And I’m confused
Would you take the pain that came
With all the parts you wanna claim for you

[Pre-Chorus]
You want my thighs
You want my stride
But not this melanin
You want my hair
But you don’t care
For this complexion

[Chorus]
I’m a black woman
I’m a black woman
Cornbread fed
Sweat tea sippin’
Nubian Queen with the skin that glistens
I’m a black woman

[Verse 2]
Sixteen sittin’ on the cold floor
In the corner after school
Recovering from your cover up
When you told me
I wasn’t right for you
It wasn’t hard to believe
‘cus when I watch TV
I would never see
A leading lady look like me
Familiar package with less pigment
I ain’t ignorant, it’s just reality

[Pre-Chorus]
You want my thighs
You want my stride
But not this melanin
You want my hair
But you don’t care
For this complexion

[Chorus]
I’m a black woman
I’m a black woman
Cornbread fed
Sweet tea sippin’
Nubian Queen with the skin that glistens
I’m a black woman

[Bridge]
The world tells me there is space for me
If I cinch it up
And I soak it in
The world tells me it’ll all be mine
With some lashes on
And some lighter eyes
The world tells me it’ll work for me
If I let ’em do a little surgery
The world tells me it’ll change for me
With some longer nails
And some lightening cream

[Outro]
But I’m a black woman
(Lose myself to prove myself)
I’m a black woman
(We’ve come too far to right these wrongs)
‘Cus I’m a black woman
‘Cus I’m a black woman

Thanks!

Here’s the link to the part one of amazing songs that celebrate melanin

AMAZING SONGS THAT CELEBRATE MELANIN ( With Lyrics)

AMAZING SONGS THAT CELEBRATE MELANIN ( With Lyrics)

Nowadays, black women are beginning to own their melanin showing that their skin really is beautiful too. With a lot of modifications that are being made to suit the dark skin such as makeup products and body lotions, the music industry isn’t left behind. Thanks to a few artist, these are amazing songs that celebrate melanin to add to your play list. I hope these amazing songs inspire, motivate and activate you to celebrate melanin more. May these songs remind you just how beautiful melanin is and also, may it reveal the beauty lying within you.

1) Melanin by Ciara, Lupita, La La, Esther Dean, City girls

Ciara- Melanin

I started with this song because it was released just few days ago. The collaboration speaks of how black women need to unite in order to overcome. Did you know Lupita could singggg??? While we await the video release, as the song says, « we melanin chicks ‘bout to run the world» [Ciara:]That’s that chocolate, chocolate

[Ciara:]


That’s that chocolate, chocolate
That melanin
Ow!

[Ester Dean:]


(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) Yeah, we killin’ ’em
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) We be killin’ ’em
With all that chocolate, chocolate

[Ciara:]

CeCe’s my name (Uh), love is my game (Yup)
Blue and green’s my color, I stay reppin’ my team (Ooh-ooh)
My girls in every shade, mhm, we put that “S” in “slay”
I’m lifting up my queens, fixing crowns, that’s my thing
Uh, she cute as fuck, junk in that trunk
My sugar, cinnamon, yeah, girl, he love that melanin

[Ester Dean:]


(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) Yeah, we killin’ ’em
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) that’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) We be killin’ ’em
With all that chocolate, chocolate

[Ciara:]


My daddy call me princess (Uh)
Feel so royal when he rockin’ me (Uh)
Breaking my good foot, prop a knee (All night)
Uh, a hot, cold summer day
He drinking melanade
Them boys go loco, loco
Yeah, he love that chocolate
Uh, he cute as fuck
CeCe did good
He’s such a gentleman
Yeah, girl, I love that melanin

[Ester Dean:]


(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) Yeah, we killin’ ’em
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) We be killin’ ’em
With all that chocolate, chocolate

[Ciara:]


Hey, ladies (Yeah?), are you ready (Yeah?)
To hit (Yeah?) that melanin (Melanin)
Go Ester, go Lupita, go LaLa, go City Girls (Ow!)
Go Yolanda, go Sienna, go Veena, go Robin
Go Gabbie, go Jackie, go Jeniffer, go Kelly
Go down, go Erica
Good assist, you did that

[Ester Dean:]


(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) Yeah, we killin’ em
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) We be killin’ ’em
With all that chocolate, chocolate

[LA LA:]


Well, my name is LaLa
Stay so poppin’ and phantomy (Whoo, whoo)
Hustle all day, that’s a queen in me (Whoo, whoo)
I walk on the block like, “Damn, I’m heat!”
A Butter Rican bae, mami, mami, I get paid (Cha-ching!)
Your baby daddy’s fave, I’m that big drip, I’m the wave
She copper thin, she stackin’ thick (She bad)
Stay settin’ trends, yeah, girl, that’s that melanin

[Ester Dean:]
(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) Yeah, we killin’ em (Lupita, let’s go!)
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate

[Lupita Nyong’o:]


It’s Troublemaker back on the scene
Stay getting that green, Wu-Tang called it C.R.E.A.M.
I ride with the team, my hustle’s a dream
I’m Mexican born, but a Kenyan queen (Ayy, ayy)
Like Kipchoge, pushing the limits
One hour and fifty-nine minutes? (Mhm, mhm)
I keep it so classy, cover girl, you know I’m sassy (Okay)
My hue on dark chocolat’ (Chocolat’)
Movie deals, I get a lot (I get a lot)
Yeah, ’cause I’m a brown-skinned girl
These melanin chicks ’bout to run the whole world

[Ester Dean & J.T.:]
(Uh) That’s that melanin (Ow)
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) Yeah, we killin’ em (J.T.)
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate

[J.T.:]


I’m black girl magic
Skin like expensive fabric (Baye)
He like it better when I’m ratchet
I’m a boss-boss, chick’s still askin’ (So?)
Kitty power, kitty power, kitty power (Ho)
Gotta make ’em pay by the hour, ’til you broke
City Girl ish, gotta let the world know
I’m a bad chick with a lace or a ‘fro
She thick as fuck (Mhm), she bad as ish
I’m worldwide, and I’m a felanin’
Go CeCe, go LaLa, go Resha, go J.T
Go Maggie, go Cardi, go RiRi
Go Layton
C-I-T-Y wid it, city girl, I’m light wid it (Ow)
Brown skin, I’m fine wit’ it (Ayy)
Go Mary J. Blige wid it, ayy
Break it down, both sides wit’ it (Break it down)
Bring it up, spread the ground wit’ it (Spread the ground)
O-T, outta town wit’ it
Had to add a lil’ brown wit’ it

[Ester Dean:]


(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) Yeah, we killin’ ’em
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) That’s that melanin
Yeah, that’s that chocolate, chocolate
(Uh) We be killin’ ’em
With all that chocolate, chocolate

2) Melanin by Romain Virgo

Roman Virgo

Ayyyiii
Its the Melanin! Ouu yeah
I love you everything
Yeah yeah yeahDont you know that
Black don’t crackThere’s no need to be ashamed of your skin
They won’t tell you but its a fact
You got class, let it last
Keep it genuineYou must have got me
Got me in a trap
Cause everytime I keep coming back
Cause they dont got a thing on you
And they can glow just like you do
And I want the whole wide world to see
That you are beautiful to me
I love my chocolate skinYou are royal, you are queen
Dont you change that beauty within
Lift your head up, lift it with pride
And You dont have to worry
I’m always here by your sideYou must have got me
Got me in a trap
Cause everytime I keep coming back
Cause they dont get a thing on you
And they can glow just like you do
I want the whole wide world to see
That you are beautiful to me
I love my chocolate skin
You better love yourself don’t hate yourself embrace yourself my dear
Cause you look beautiful in every single thing you wear
Stay just the way you are
Don’t you change a thing
Woozess power in your melaninI know you got me
Got me in a trap
Cause everytime I keep coming back
Cause they dont get a thing on you
And they can glow just like you do
And I want the whole wide world to see
That you are beautiful to me
I love my chocolate skin
It’s the melanin uh huh ouu yeah
I love you everything yeah yeah yeah
It’s the melanin uh huh yeah
I love you everything you everything
Your everything

3) Melanin by Afro B

Afro B

Girl you bad
You be bad pass El Chapo
Mexico
Odo ye wu’eh

Jolie beautiful
You be bussing my brain
Ehhhhh nana eh

Give me your love your love your love
Give your love to me
Love to me
Cherie be my queen

See this your body oooo
Is worth more than my money
My money

Oh my mela mela mela
Oh my mela mela mela
Melanin

Oh you bella Bella Bella
Oh my mela mela mela
Melanin

My heart go
Pa pa ti pa pa
Ah ti pa pa
Oh mela mela mela
Mela mela mela

My heart go pa pa
Ti pa pa ooooo
Ti pa pa ooooo
Oh mela mela mela
Mela mela mela
Melanin

Them ah talk
Talk like they know us
Mmmmm
See this our love
See this our love
This kind of love can not be touched
Eeee
Ma Cherie coco

Pass me your loving
Pass me your loving
Pass me your loving
I give you am all night
I’ll make you feel almighty oooo
Give me your love
Give me your love eeeeee

Oh my mela mela mela
Oh my mela mela mela

Oh you bella Bella Bella
Oh you bella Bella Bella
Melanin

My heart go pa pa
Ti pa pa ooooo
Ti pa pa ooooo
Oh mela mela mela
Mela mela mela

My heart go pa pa
Ti pa pa ooooo
Ti pa pa ooooo
Oh mela mela mela
Mela mela mela
Melanin

DEPRESSION- A Thief

DEPRESSION- A Thief

There I was, lying on my bed in the middle of the day, a Saturday for that matter. I could feel it creeping in, slowly but very tactically and meticulously. Like a thief, trying to rob a house at night, I felt like I was about to get robbed. Yes my mind was troubled. It all seemed like the world was moving and sadly, I wasn’t. You know that feeling of being left behind right?

All of a sudden, everything about my life seemed wrong. I no longer felt comfortable with what I studied in school, I wondered if I had the right friends and chased the right dreams. My challenges all came like a rush through my veins. No matter how hard I tried, it kept on coming. I wished someone could hear me or feel me. How come they can’t see me struggling?

It’s then that I understood that you can be in a crowd yet feel lonely. But why? Why now! Could it have been something I saw? How did I get to think so lowly of my self in such a short interval. I remember going through a couple of friends WhatsApp status earlier that day. So many wedding announcements, engagements, promotions goals crushed and lots and lots of smiles.

Wait a minute, I’m I being jealous now. I should be happy for them. On second thoughts, I’m truly happy for them and wish for more of such happy moments but I just wished I was a part of it.

Some of the signs you may be feeling depressed are thoughts or feelings of

  • Not being loved
  • shame or digrace
  • being left out
  • not achieving one’s goals or failure
  • environmental change
  • heart break
  • etc

Some of the things you haven’t to remember if you feel that way are

  • You are loved
  • so long as there’s life, there’s hope
  • You are not alone. You may not feel like it but God is with you, has always been and always will be.
  • It’s an attack from the devil, refuse to succumb
  • Your future is bright. Your circumstances may just be obscuring you from that reality. Choose to look beyond the unseen.
  • It’s not the end of you. If it was, you wouldn’t have been reading this now.

What to do

  • Smile: watch a movie, listen to music, etc just do anything you know will make you smile.
  • Acts of love: there’s a feeling you get when you give out love. It’s so fulfilling. If you can make someone smile, I mean, you definitely have a reason to live. When was the last time you made someone smile?
  • Go through your dreams and plans over again, do you really want to throw it away?

Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest.  ( Definition by Mayo Clinic)

Depression is a thief, don’t let it rob you of your joy, happiness, future, loved ones.

Keep on keeping on.

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