You don’t drink alcohol, they say you are childish and they wonder how you drink only sweet drinks. You don’t wear exposing dresses such as beach wears (the really exposing ones) they say you are shy. You don’t go to clubs or bars, they say you are too uptight and need to loosen up. This article isn’t meant to judge anyone for their actions but rather to encourage you to be steadfast with whatever positive decision you’ve made as concerns your life. I’ve noticed a lot of negative energy especially on social media concerning New Year resolutions. You’d hear someone say something like, “my people with New Year resolutions, how far?” in a very sarcastic way. A lot of people have been discouraged from making resolutions just from such comments. It’s almost like they are just waiting for them to fail or give up and I don’t see how helpful that kind of reaction is. Well, scientifically it has been proven that majority of people who make New Year resolutions end up failing. Here are some of the reasons why
- Lack of self belief
If you’ve tried to set a New Year resolution in the past and failed maybe severally, it might be difficult for you to believe in yourself. Doubt is a destroyer of personal growth and the way to defeat doubt is to believe in yourself. Every new day, week, month or year is an opportunity to start afresh. Even if you’ve tried and failed many times just because you’re still alive means there’s hope. This year you can try again but better this time.
- Much thinking, less doing
I’m sure if life was only about our thoughts then many people will be billionaires by now but that’s not the case. Most of our goals aren’t realistic making it hard to apply them. If you could train yourself to put one thing you learn from every book or article into practice, you’ll make much progress in life.
- You don’t find the process to be fun
If you think your life is boring because you’ve decided to abstain from certain things then it would be very easy for you to give up. There are certainly many ways to ‘have fun’. First of all, that statement could mean so many different things to different people. One person’s way of having fun could be to drink a whole bottle of wine while another could be to finish a whole chicken. So do not think you are missing out on life based on another person’s perspective. Find which works for you and create time to have fun without being intimidated by someone else’s way of having fun.
- You don’t know your why
Knowing what you want is important as well as knowing why you want it. If you don’t have a good reason for not doing something then someone can easily give you a good reason to do it. That’s one of the reasons why we are persuaded into doing things which we didn’t plan to do. For example there’re many times I’ve been told I don’t wear certain dresses because I’m shy and I’m like what does being descent have to do with being shy. Being bold is a positive trait so I can easily be tempted to think that I need to wear exposing dresses to prove my boldness which will be a wrong way to look at it. I once asked a friend why she doesn’t drink alcohol and she said she likes testing her willpower. That really got me in a positive way. How often do you put your willpower to the test. This is a good way to grow mentally. Define your whys and let them be known clearly by you so that when temptation comes you’ll have a good reason not to fall. Whatever you have decided to do this year that you think is going to be helpful to your personal growth, be true to yourself and don’t allow yourself to be derailed by what people say. They would not understand why you do the things you do. You must not do what seems like everyone is doing. You must not stick to the status quo. Deciding to do things differently already sets you on a path towards greater achievements. Believe in yourself and believe that you are doing the right thing for your purpose and destiny.
1 Corinthians 9:27 New King James Version (NKJV)
27 But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.
Finally, if you haven’t yet decided to do something differently this year, or you haven’t yet decided to improve at least one area of your life, I strongly encourage you to do so. Stretch yourself, leave your comfort zone, do something daring, make this year a memorable one. You are probably not at the level where you ought to be because of some things weighing you down and hindering you from making progress. Most people end up failing but you can be part of those who succeed. Yes you can!
LIFE IS A CHOICE, CHOOSE WISELY!