It’s not the situation but whether we react (negative) or respond (positive) to the situation that’s important. I believe we were made weak be it financially, health, body size and shape, skin complexion or whatever you consider as a weakness, so that God’s strength will be made manifest and His glory revealed.
Last year, I came across an episode of Steve Harvey’s show on Facebook in which he was interviewing a slim dark young girl called Kheris Rogers, a 10-year-old at the time. I got interested immediately and I wanted to know what the interview was all about. She started talking about how she was bullied by her classmates for her darker skin. There was an incident with a teacher in which they were asked to draw themselves and she was given a black pencil instead of a brown one. I was really surprised as I didn’t imagine that kind of thing still happens in this century yet I could totally relate with her story. I’ve sat in a class where the teacher cracks a joke using my dark skin as sample and the whole class burst into laughter, sometimes I laugh with them and other times it’s not funny at all. Sometimes I really don’t blame the teacher because he’s probably only trying to make his class more lively but at what cost?
Kheris was traumatized, she would cry a lot and wished she wasn’t dark skin. Then her sister posted pictures of her on twitter using the hashtag #flexininhercomplexion saying “my sister is only 10, but already royalty”
That post went viral and since then her life has never been the same again. All the positive comments helped boost her self-esteem and confidence and she now owns her own clothing line “Flexin’ In My Complexion.” That confidence helped her to chase her dreams and passions and her color which she was once bullied for has opened so many doors for her, it has placed her before kings and queens and now she’s an inspiration to many dark girls including me. Below are some of her quotes
- You almost went to the gym, you almost started writing again, you almost started a YouTube channel. You almost started a business, you almost changed your life, you almost chased your dreams. Almost is nothing at all. Just do it!
- Black is beautiful and I’m the proof.
- You don’t accomplish your dreams by just wishing, just do it.
- In order to be one of the greatest, you have to move like one of the greatest.
- Strong women aren’t simply born, they blossom through challenges in life. With each challenge, a strong woman doesn’t give up, but pushes forward with their head held high!
For one of her giveaways, she asked her instagram followers how they flex in their complexions, below are some of their replies
- “I’m so proud of how God has used you, your humbleness and your success! I’m a hardcore #flexinginmycomplexion member because God blessed me with this dark chocolate skin since my eyes opened 40 years ago. I never allowed anyone to make me feel less about something that was God given! I try and share that knowledge with others. God doesn’t make mistakes.”
- “I don’t see my skin as a liability, I see it as a power because with my skin my black is beautiful and I love the skin that I am in and I know who I am.”
- “I sit in the sun for as long as I want without fear or concern for people commenting on my ‘darkness’ I’m sucking up the light of the world and using up all of its energy.”
- “I flexed in my complexion by staying true to who I am and being a voice for the voiceless and a role model for little girls that look just like me”
- “I’m flexing in my complexion by empowering young people ages 16-24 to love themselves no matter what shade their skin is. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made by God.”
What so ever you want to do in life, do not allow your complexion be a limitation. Hope her story inspires you like it inspired me.