Each an everyone of us, at some point in our lives have either had a broken heart or know someone who has. We’ve even heard many heartbreak stories like broken engagements, broken marriages, many left on the alter and so on and so forth. Truth be told, unless you experience it, the pain cannot be explained. Anyways, in this post, we won’t be focusing on the negative aspect of heart break. In as much as it sometimes feels impossible to heal from a heart break, let’s look at some 5 steps to healing a broken heart.
1) surrender your heart to Jesus.
The first step is to surrender your heart to Jesus. No matter how it is ( ugly, bitter, broken, wounded etc), surrender to Jesus because he alone can heal a broken heart.
The tendency is to try to hide our brokenness from him because we feel unworthy.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
Matthew 11:28
2) Believe that Jesus still loves you
Second step is to believe that Jesus sees your heart just the way it is, he knows all what you are going through and he still loves you.
Bible says God is closer to the broken hearted. He loves you just the way you are. No matter how far away, no matter how broken, or how wounded and bitter you are, Jesus loves you.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Psalms 34:18
3)Ask Jesus to heal your heart.
Unlike other diseases that Jesus healed, this is one aspect of healing that only Jesus can do. I’m not sure there’s any doctor that can heal or mend a broken heart. Jesus is the only one that can see your heart the way it is. He is the only one that understands you.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Psalms 147:3
4) spend more time with God.
Spend more time studying the Word, worshipping, praying and fellowship with other brethren. When ever I meditate on God’s Word, I literally feel His light illluminate my heart. And the more I focus on him the more I forgot about my pain and worries. But this is a continuous process, once I stopped spending time and focusing on Him , the more I focused on the problem
5) Get busy with God’s work.
Get busy with your purpose, passion. You were created by God, for his good works. Start doing them. Start impacting the life’s of those around you. Whatever dreams you have in your heart, work on them so as to bring them to realisation. And in whatever you do, do it as serving the Lord and not man. An idle man is a devils workshop so GET BUSY.
All this will take time, some people heal faster, others heal slower. Understand and accept your own healing process. I pray that what ever stage you are in your healing journey, you’ll accept and embrace it while learning the most from it. May God give you the strength you need and I’m due time May he heal your heart. AMEN
December is here, the last month of the year! Wow, how time flies. Seriously, new year feels just like yesterday but here we are at the end of the year already. So to finish the year strong, I came up with this 30 Days Self-confidence challenge while setting the pace for 2022.
1) Smile at a stranger
I pray you smile from a place of understanding knowing fully well that smiling is powerful especially when the smiles are really genuine
2) List 5 things you love about yourself
No human being can love you better than you love yourself. Find out those things you love about yourself and build on them. This will boost your self confidence tremendously
3) Dance to your favorite song
If like me, you find it hard having favorites, pick any song you really like and just dance. Also, you don’t need to be a pro dancer. Recording yourself is a plus, so you can always rewatch and relive the moment.
4) Give someone a compliment
That feeling of making someone else smile, simply priceless. A random text or call from you just complimenting a friend, colleague or neighbor about how good they are will be amazing. You can boost your self confidence by boosting that of someone else.
5) Prepare your favorite meal
Be it a salad, cocktail, fries, etc it doesn’t have to be complicated. However if you have enough time and resources whatever your favorite meal is, go for it. You might also want to try a new recipe.
6) Don’t talk negatively aboutotherpeoplefor the whole day
A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.
Luke 6:45
You only speak what your heart and mind have harbored for a while. When next a negative thought about someone comes to your mind, replace it immediately with a positive one.
7) Get at least 8 hours of sleep
8) Do something you loved doing as a child
Think about that game you loved so much during childhood…
9) Do a little self care
Try having some ‘you time’ just taking care of yourself. You could do an exercise, get a massage, journal, meditate or just spend time alone with God.
10) Do a social media detox
Taking some time off social media will help you focus on yourself and reconnect with the things that really make you happy.
11) list 3 things you have accomplished
As the year draws to an end, it’s very easy to think about the things you failed to do, but how about you take out time to list the things you’ve accomplished so far? This will definitely boost your self confidence and encourage you not to give up.
12) Say No to something
The strength of your will power is determined by your ability to say NO. You don’t always have to say yes to everything especially if it doesn’t allign with your values, goals and beliefs.
13) Implement a new healthy habit
It has been proven that to develop a new habit, the same thing has to be done consistently for 21 days. So if you start today, by the time the new year begins, it will be part of your lifestyle.
14) Treat yourself out
You don’t always have to wait for someone else to do it and it doesn’t have to be too expensive or extravagant. You could visit a nice garden or your favorite restaurant
15) Practice a power pose
In order to boost and maintain self confidence, you need to have the right posture. There are many power poses, salutation pose, Victory pose and just recently I found out smiling is among too.
16) Do something you’ve never done before
Try a new dish, visit a new place, try a new activity or sport. To begin, start by trying to name one thing you’ve never done then work from there. PS: it should be something good and positive that will make you see life from a new perspective.
17) Put on your favoriteoutfit
There’s always that one dress that once you put on, you feel different and your self confidence is just on another level. How about you wear it today, and of course take a good picture while at it.
18) Say this affirmation 3 times
« I am beautiful, confident and deserving of the best »
Say it first thing in morning before stepping out, say it at random periods of your day, declare it boldly before going to bed.
19) Try something new with your hair
It doesn’t matter if you already have a particular hairstyle right now. Just try to style it in a new way.
20) Describe somethingrandomor weird that brings you joy.
Most at times we have a memory that when we think about, we burst out in laugh. Today, don’t wait for anyone to make you laugh, think about anything weird or random that brings you joy.
21) Buy yourself a gift.
When was the last time you got yourself a gift? Some people will put in so much thought and resources when gifting others but when it comes to themselves, anything goes! It’s December, the last month of the year, try rewarding yourself for the years effort and achievements. It could be anything small but should be meaningful.
22) Stretch
23) Talk to a stranger
I know you probably meet and talk with strangers every day, but today be really intentional about it.
24) Write down 5 things you are gratefulfor
It doesn’t matter how many times things went wrong throughout the year, there are still many things to be grateful for. Think deeply about the things you are grateful for and write them down. An attitude of gratitude is a great recipe for self confidence.
25) Reach out to an old friend
It’s Christmas Day and many people will be expecting wishes and gifts from family and loved ones. How about you surprise an old friend or someone you haven’t talked to in a long while ?
26) List 3 of your strengths
Maximise your strengths…
27) List 3 weaknesses you will work on next year
Minimise your weaknesses! Don’t be that person who always say ‘ that’s just the way I am’ If you can work on it, please do. In order for you to become the best version of yourself, you need to minimise your weaknesses.
28) Do a complete skin care routine and record.
Do you have a skin care routine? What are the components of your skin care routine?
29) List 3 people in your life you are gratefulfor
Earlier on, you listed the things you were grateful for but now, list the 3 people in your life right now that you are grateful for. Once you identify them, why not let them know how much you are grateful for them. Remember, your network is your net worth.
30) Name one thing you like about your body or appearance
Here at Beiblackbeauty our vision is that you be comfortable and confident in your own skin. You are beautiful just the way you are.
Congratulations, if you made it to the end of the challenge. I hope you feel good about yourself and your self confidence has increased.
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